At a 2012 conference, Ed Miliband said: 'If you want the American dream, go to Finland.' For decades, the country best known for opportunity had been the US, but that crown has now been taken by our Nordic neighbours. When Finnish journalist Anu Partanen moved to the US in 2008, she quickly went from being a confident successful professional to a wary, self-doubting mess. She found that navigating the basics of everyday life was more complicated and stressful than anything she had ever encountered in Finland. In this book, Partanen focuses on four key relationships: those between parents and children, men and women, employees and employers, and government and its citizens. She debunks the criticism that the Nordics are socialist nanny states, revealing instead that it is we who are far more enmeshed in unhealthy dependencies than we realise.